Plaza Voices: Do You Cry?

Our regular contributor Naghem S. writes:

I cried last night and the night before. 

I cry when I’m happy, I cry when I am sad, I cry when I’m angry, and I cry to heal. I cry when I am alone, and sometimes I cry in public. I cry just because I want to. Crying allows me to be vulnerable without having to have an answer for all of life’s problems. Crying is something that I have done my entire life and it’s a release that leaves me content and at peace. Crying doesn’t fix my problems, but it gives me an outlet when I feel the world is caving in. 

I learned to cry from my father. I am not talking about physically releasing tears, but the true meaning behind those tears. The idea that only the weak cry is not something my family believes in. It is not something my culture or religion believe in. Men in my religion openly weep when they hear stories about history and how the cruel the world was and continues to be. Crying is encouraged to heal and to repent for acts that we were not proud of. Crying is encouraged when someone feels alone and needs to just let it all out. 

Crying is a universal experience; everyone cries. EVERYONE, from the newborn taking the first breaths of life to our elderly who cry for the last time. Tears are shed when someone dies and when someone is born. At weddings, eyes usually glisten with tears of joy and happiness. At graduations and reunions, tears can show pride in dedication and hard work. During hard times, such as the times we are in, people cry from frustration and from a sense of helplessness. People cry when life becomes too much to bear and the emotions inside want out. People cry when the winds of change appear and they are nervous yet excited at the same time. There is no shame in crying, just like there is no shame in laughing.

So, my friends, I want you all to do yourself a favor. Later tonight, or even right now, try to cry. Release the stress of the day. You will be shocked at how good it feels.

Below are some of my favorite books that when I read, I cannot help but cry. 

And Every Morning The Way Home Gets Longer And Longer : A Novella - Fredrick Backman

Wave - Sonali Deraniyagala

The Art Of Racing In The Rain : A Novel - Garth Stein

A Thousand Splendid Suns - Khaled Hosseini

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Written by Amma R. on August 18, 2017



Thank you for this post, Naghem. Sometimes I feel like I cry too much reading books, watching the news, movies & TV, listening to music....or maybe, it's just the right amount :)  

Cori J. on August 24, 2017


I love to cry as much as I love to laugh! I think of them as flip sides of the same coin. Both are wonderful releases for me. Thank you for this post!

Josh @ GVR on August 30, 2017


Awesome blog as always Naghem.