Let's talk about SEX
Yup, that's right. Today's topic is SEX.
Let's be honest. Kids and teenagers probably know what sex is and what it's about; I mean how can they not!? TV, movies, music, art, etc. are filled with it.
I'm here to make your life a little easier when It comes to the "birds and the bees" talk. Millions upon millions of parents have had that same awkward conversation with their very own kids and explained the dos and don'ts of sex. As much as you might dread that day, it's probably one of the most important life lessons you can teach.
This subject has become much easier to be talked about because schools start teaching sex education at a early age, so the foundation for you to have the conversation is there already. Through school, kids and teens have a little knowledge regarding were babies come from, STDs, etc. which makes it a little bit less weird because someone has already broken the ice for you.
In order to help you, I've gathered some facts that may or may not help you on your quest of having the least awkward sex talk ever. According to National Campaign to end teen pregnancy in 2012, there have been "305,388 teens giving birth, which is 29 births for every 1000 girls" in the U.S. This might seem like a lot, but honestly, this has been the lowest rate in over 20 years! Also, in 2011, there were 574 confirmed cases of kids between the ages of 13 and 19 contracting AIDS in all 50 states.
Statistics from Palo Alto Medical Foundation in 2013:
"50 percent of all pregnancies in the U.S. are unplanned and most of them are women in their 20s."
"70 percent of these unplanned pregnancies are single women."
"54 percent of women are still single when their child reaches 2 years of age."
"1 in 4 couples in an unplanned pregnancy separate before their child is 2 years old."
One more thing. I know this blog is mostly about talking to our youth about safe sex, but I'm going to quickly mention that adults should take precautions and prevent unplanned pregnancies, transfer of STIs and STDs as well. I won't go into detail because as an adult you should know the risks, so I'm going to give you a few little facts just to keep in mind.
According to Avert, "1.3 million people are living with HIV in the United States of America, with a fifth unaware of their status."
Statistics from American Sexual Health Association on Sexually Transmitted Infections:
- One in two sexually active persons will contact an STD/STI by age 25.
- Fewer than half of adults ages 18 to 44 have ever been tested for an STD/STI other than HIV/AIDS.
- Recent estimates from the Centers for Disease Control and Infection show that there are 19.7 million new STIs every year in the U.S.
- More than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
Just a few facts to keep in mind for yourself or to help you give factual evidence when you have the birds and the bees talk.
If you need more help with this topic, do some research, check out the links I've given, read books, watch videos. If all else fails and you just can't bear to have the conversation, don't worry. Schools, after school clubs, clinics, hospitals such as Denver Health... are already teaching sex education.
Here are some useful materials you can get from the library:
Programs that offer free Birth Control or at low cost
BC4U- "Free birth control, STD testings, pregnancy testing, emergency contraception, breast exams, HPV vaccines and pap smears. Its all free and completely confidential."
Denver Health-Family Planning- "Birth Control information and supplies: IUDs, the Pill, the Shot, the Patch, the Ring, contraceptive implant, emergency contraception and condoms, teen confidential visits, no parental consent needed, sterilization procedures such as vasectomy, screening for sexually transmitted infections and HIV, health education and counseling, including information regarding abstinence, pregnancy testing and counseling, basic infertility services, cervical, breast and testicular, cancer screening, education, and access to Long-Acting Reversible Contraception (LARC)."
Family Planning Services and STD/HIV Testing- "We provide annual health examinations, birth control counseling, contraceptive supplies, emergency contraception, condoms and testing for pregnancy, STDs and HIV/AIDS. Condom information, family planning brochure and planificación familiar folleto."
If you have any advice about the "Birds and the Bees" talk, facts, stories, resources or anything you would like to share, please comment below and share this blog. Help others who might need it. Share the knowledge and help one another.